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Oct 2022
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EP 228 - Positive Emotional States On De...

Drew Linsalata
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Demanding to create positive emotional states on demand is common misguided strategy that many fall into during recovery. While often we fear emotions because they turn into fear so quickly, we can also demand that we should be able to experience positive emotional states when we want to.  When we do this, we are generally trying to achieve a few basic goals:

  • We are trying to escape the emotional state that we fear and hate by replacing it with a positive emotional state.
  • We are attempting to eradicate negative states like sadness because we believe that we should always "choose happiness" or some such nonsense.
  • We think that we are incapable of "handling" negative emotions or that they will automatically lead to some form of disaster or catastrophe.
  • We are afraid that if we do not experience positive emotional states in given situations, that something is wrong with us.

Let’s talk about this today on episode 228 of The Anxious Truth!

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https://theanxioustruth.com/228

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