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Jul 2022
16m 58s

Guilt and Shame: What's the Difference?

MARK GREGSTON
About this episode

It's okay for teens to feel guilt when they do something they know is wrong — but when parents then approach them with shame-filled comments and criticisms, it can cause damage that lasts a lifetime. In this episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd sit down to discuss the importance of implementing natural consequences for your teen WITHOUT any shame piled on top. Listen in for more on how to discipline your teen without damaging the relationship!  

Mark's article, "Five Things Every Parent Needs to Know About Rules" features more insight on how to establish healthy consequences in your home. Check it out here: bit.ly/3OzJcwM

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