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Jun 2021
40m 27s

Trauma Affects Relationships

Rhoda Sommer on Relationships
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Trauma deeply challenges our sense of safety and security in the world, which often has an impact on relationships. It's natural for those who have suffered trauma to feel that building close relationships is frightening because they don't want to experience more hurt. Someone who is coping with trauma may feel disconnected from themselves as well as their partner.

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