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Feb 2022
51m 13s

learning to accurately label your emotio...

Mollie Adler
About this episode

In this second part of my conversation with psychodynamic psychologist Dr. Jayce Long, we dive even deeper into the emotional patterns that shape our relationships and the path to genuine healing. Building on part one, where we explored the unconscious mind, this episode uncovers the ways in which unresolved childhood experiences continue to influence our adult relationships, often reenacting trauma in subtle yet impactful ways. Dr. Long offers insights into how attachment styles—particularly avoidant and preoccupied/disorganized—tend to attract each other, creating a dynamic that often leads to conflict. Together, we discuss practical tools for breaking these cycles and learning to approach intimacy and trust as a gradual process, rather than a quick fix.


Key topics we explore in this episode include:


  • The lasting impact of childhood and adolescent bullying on adult relationships
  • Navigating conflict in family and intimate relationships while setting clear emotional boundaries
  • Understanding the difference between healthy self-awareness and self-centeredness
  • Identifying and expressing core emotions—anger, sadness, fear, curiosity, love, and joy—by tuning into our bodies and embracing “complicated” feelings
  • How perfectionism in our inner critic once served us, and why evolving beyond it is essential in recovery
  • How giving unsolicited advice may unknowingly undermine our relationships
  • Moving beyond the concept of “raging” at our inner critic, finding more nuanced ways to build self-compassion


This episode encourages listeners to develop a deeper connection to their emotions and break free from the patterns that keep them trapped in past trauma. Join us as we explore the nuances of emotional healing, offering practical steps for setting boundaries, cultivating trust, and navigating the complexities of self-growth and recovery.


Follow Jayce on Instagram @darebeingwith


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