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May 2024
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Emotional Maturity Through Learning How ...

MONIQUE KOVEN
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In this conversation, Monique Koven and Alison Cook discuss the importance of acknowledging and embracing our emotions rather than brushing them aside or numbing them. They explore the concept of naming our emotions as a way to bring order and relief to our inner world. They emphasize the need for self-compassion and curiosity when it comes to our emotions, and the importance of pausing and reflecting before taking action. The conversation also touches on the healing journey of trauma survivors and the role of framing our emotions in a healthy way. Overall, the conversation highlights the practices of naming, awareness, framing, and braving as essential tools for emotional well-being.Key words emotions, naming, order, relief, self-compassion, curiosity, pausing, reflecting, trauma, healing, framing, braving, emotional. The conversation is based on themes in Alision’s new book “ I Shouldn’t Feel This Way.” Takeaways Acknowledging and embracing our emotions is important for our emotional well-being. Naming our emotions brings order and relief to our inner world. Self-compassion and curiosity are key in dealing with our emotions. Pausing and reflecting before taking action allows for wiser decision-making. The healing journey of trauma survivors involves learning to name and honor their emotions. Framing our emotions in a healthy way helps us understand and respond to them effectively. Braving involves taking action based on our emotional awareness and understanding. Embracing Our Emotions: The Key to Emotional Well-being Healing Trauma: Learning to Name and Honor Our Emotions "I shouldn't feel this way has become for me a little bit of a, oh, I feel something. I feel something I don't want to feel." "The truth sets us free. This is what I feel. I'm not gaslighting myself. I'm not trying to dupe myself into not feeling what I really feel." "Numbing is to try to keep those emotions outside of our conscious awareness. Naming is bringing them up into the surface and looking at them."Dr. Alison Cook's Website & Resources dralisoncook.com

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