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Oct 14
37m 8s

Healing Your Attachment Through God with...

Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
About this episode

In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with Gretchen Costanzo, a certified integrative attachment coach and creator of the Living Connected Method, to talk about what it means to create a secure relationship with God — and how transformational that can be for your healing and relationships. We explore how God can become your steady rock, the connection between faith and secure attachment, and what it looks like to date from a place of spiritual security and emotional grounding.

Whether you’re rebuilding your faith or curious about how your relationship with God shapes your attachment patterns, this conversation will meet you right where you are.


Contact Gretchen:

https://attachment.coach/

Gretchencostanzo@gmail.com


Attachment Coaching with Jessica:

Book a free clarity call here

@thejessicadasilva


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