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May 2022
42m 34s

Insecure in Love: Exploring Attachment S...

Alex Cooper
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What is your attachment style and how does it affect how you view yourself and behave within a relationship? Before listening to the episode take the online quiz to determine your personal attachment style (free link below). Whether you realize you have a secure or insecure attachment style, this week Dr. Becker-Phelps, clinical psychologist and author, joins us to break down the role it plays within your life and provides tools to work towards a healthier way of relating to yourself and others. Dr. Becker-Phelps also discusses the concept of rejection sensitivity, how it relates to your attachment style and tangible ways to overcome it. Enjoy! Attachment style quiz: http://web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

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