logo
episode-header-image
Jan 2022
42m 37s

The Adult Avoidant Attachment Style

iHeartPodcasts
About this episode

Welcome back to the second installment of our Attachment Theory Series. This week, we are talking a deep dive into the insecure avoidant attachment style in adults. Kat describes how this gets formed, what it feels like and what it can look like from the outside. Don't worry- she also gave some insight into how to move towards a more secure attachment (but you have to get all the way to the end for that 🤪). This attachment style stems from experiences that lead to a continuous loss of hope relationally. The repetitive nature of their feelings of rejection and abandonment encourage them to form behaviors to detach them from their need for attachment. But we already know that we are a connection based species so these eventually start to backfire and keep us from getting what we all ultimately innately strive for: love and belonging. Listen this week to get the full scoop on how this all works.

And remember, if you come up with questions while listening to this weeks show (or any week really) feel free to send them over to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta

Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast

Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!


Produced by: @HoustonTilley

Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Up next
Dec 2024
Lessons in Love and Closure from JP Saxe (Part 2)
We are back for round 2 with JP Saxe! Kat has Grammy nominated singer/songwriter JP Saxe on the show to talk about relationships from a slightly different perspective for a second week in a row. This week, Kat and JP dive more into masculinity and how to embrace the parts that fi ... Show More
44m 9s
Dec 2024
Couch Talks: Your Guide to Your First Therapy Session
Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about how to prepare and what to expect for your first therapy session with a new therapist.   Follow Kat on Instagram:  ... Show More
15m 28s
Dec 2024
Lessons in Love and Closure from JP Saxe (Part 1)
This week, Kat has Grammy nominated singer/songwriter JP Saxe on the show to talk about relationships from a slightly different perspective. Can love still be meaningful after a something ends? According to JP... it most definitely can. He shares with us what he has learned about ... Show More
34m 36s
Recommended Episodes
Jan 2024
#127 Attachment Styles Explained: Annie Zimmerman
This week Dr. Annie Zimmerman is a psychotherapist, author and social media sensation sits down with me to unpack why we struggle in relationships. Throughout this podcast we uncover: How our childhood impacts our love life What is an attachment style and how do we understand wha ... Show More
54m 5s
Jun 2023
Practical Steps To Move From Anxious and Avoidant Attachment to Secure Attachment with Dr. Christina Reese
This episode first starts with Sherry and Carla reflecting on embracing life’s journey without harboring regrets. They discuss how to find value in the ups and downs and recognize the positive outcomes that have emerged from past experiences. They take a Love Fix question about l ... Show More
31m 35s
Apr 2024
Avoidants and How to Love Them | E24 | I Wish You Knew Podcast
🎙️ Jump right into the deep end with us on "I Wish You Knew," as host Adam Lane Smith, the attachment specialist, and co-host Andrey Korikov, co-founder and CEO of Veritas Creative, explore some of today’s most intricate relationship issues.    In this episode, we’re unpacking t ... Show More
1h 5m
Oct 2022
#71: WTF Are Anxious & Avoidant Attachment Styles?!
You might've heard  about Attachment Styles, but what ARE they really? What's it feel like being someone with Anxious vs. Avoidant style? Are we born with them, or do they develop? Buckle up, because in this episode not only will you learn some fascinating "behind-the-s ... Show More
25m 30s
Nov 2023
128 - Avoidant Attachment: The Real Reason They Pull Away
The avoidantly attached deserved some airtime. Are avoidantly attached individuals avoiding love or avoiding vulnerability, rejection and potential discomfort? In this heavily requested episode, this week Louise & clinical psychologist Dr. Tari Mack dive into the Avoidant Attachm ... Show More
48m 56s
Sep 2022
Attachment
Perhaps the only silver lining of learning about your attachment style is realizing that it can be healed and repaired, or at least that’s how Anna sees it. On today’s episode, Nina and Anna unpack their results from the Attachment Style Quiz and discuss the current research behi ... Show More
1h 6m
Nov 2023
EP61: Relationship Attachment Styles Revisited
This week, Sarah and Therapy Jeff are revisiting one of our favorite topics: relationship attachment styles. We covered this topic way back in episode 13 and episode 14, but we hardly scratched the surface, so we’re diving back in. Here’s some of what we covered this time around: ... Show More
1h 1m