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Dec 2021
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Is This Why You’re Depressed? Stop Shoul...

Therapy in a Nutshell -Emma McAdam
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Here’s one way you make your depression worse: should-ing on yourself. This way of talking to ourselves is like having a little shoulder angel constantly finding fault and criticizing you. But shoulds just aren’t that helpful in actually creating change - they mostly just make us miserable and discouraged. 
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