Here’s one way you make your depression worse: should-ing on yourself. This way of talking to ourselves is like having a little shoulder angel constantly finding fault and criticizing you. But shoulds just aren’t that helpful in actually creating change - they mostly just make us miserable and discouraged.
Sep 18
Emotional Regulation - How to Actually Sit with Your Feelings
If you want to learn how to regulate your emotions, you have to learn the crucial emotional regulation skill of acceptance. Learn the skills to regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Free Course: Grounding Skills for Stress, ... Show More
10m 17s
Jul 2021
#450: How to Stop Feeling Awful About Yourself
Beating yourself up, or indulging in the emotion of feeling awful about yourself, when you're not where you want to be isn't effective. It's not a helpful thought pattern, and yet, we find ourselves in places of despair. Despair drives us to desperation, depression and disillusio ... Show More
38m 32s
Aug 2020
42: "SHOULD-ING" all over yourself - are you doing it & how we stop...
I recently was told I "SHOULD" all over myself...Initially, I thought, "No I don't shit all over myself." And I quickly realized I do in fact SHOULD all over myself in my own mind, setting myself up for judgment, shame, and unproductive thinking. I look inward with you guys durin ... Show More
38m 36s
May 2023
338 SelfWork: The Five Mental Mistakes of Depression: Two. Decisions That Create Chaos
In the month of May, which is Mental Health Awareness Month, we’re focusing on five different mental habits that you can have or adopt that either worsen depression, create depression, or are part of a relapse occurring. Last week, we focused on what is termed “internal orientati ... Show More
26m 34s
Mar 2022
#488: Self-Pity is Keeping You Stuck and What to Do About It
Feeling sorry for yourself, or over-personalizing how hard things are for you is a sure-fire way to sabotage your confidence. Not only that, self-pity will make things feel 10x harder than they need to be, and will mentally and emotionally exhaust you. This episode will teach you ... Show More
38m 27s
<p><b><em>"The ego has put on a disguise of self-care and tricking us into thinking that we're doing the right things when really, we're doing the exact same pattern of avoiding feeling our emotions."</em></b><br/><br/>Do you do a lot of "self-care" ... Show More