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Dec 2021
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216. Parenting Yourself (+ Kids If You H...

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
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You know that thing your kid (or anyone, for that matter) does that drives you insane? And how it sets you off every time? Have you ever stopped to explore why that “trigger” exists in the first place, instead of just trying to “fix” it? If you search a bit deeper, you'll find that it probably stems from your childhood, and how you were parented. Once you have the why, you can use it to uplevel not only your parenting but also your relationship with yourself.    

Tune in as I talk with clinical psychologist, Dr. Becky Kennedy, and we discuss how triggers can serve an essential role in our overall system, why they exist, and what you can do about them.    


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