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Jan 2024
26m 40s

S08|01 - Secure Attachment in Parenting ...

Crystal the Parenting Coach
About this episode

In this world of breaking old patterns of parenting, and parenting in a more conscious, connected and attachment-based way, you may have noticed that it feels REALLY hard sometimes. Like, almost impossible-type-hard. Parenting, while re-parenting can feel like this. 

In this conversation we will dig into the hard, give some ideas and support, and explain a little more of the “how to’s” when it comes to a connection-focussed relationship with your kids. 

Eli Harwood (Attachment Nerd) is a licensed therapist, author, and educator who has more than 17 years of experience helping people process relational traumas and develop secure attachment relationships with their children and partners. Eli has three children, one husband, one cat, and an extraordinary number of plants. 

Today’s episode covers: 

  • Why parenting in a different way than we were raised feels so hard to do (how to get through the stuck-ness)
  • What it means to have a secure attachment
  • Entitlement and boundaries (how do you know if what you’re doing is working?)
  • How to show compassion and love without being permissive or passive
  • Tool for you to use today: setting up a community of support and focussing on physical needs
  • What a world with securely attached people would look like, and why it would be so amazing

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Coaching has changed my own life, and the lives of my clients. More connection, more healing, more harmony, and peace in our most important relationships. It increases confidence in any parenting challenges and helps you be the guide to teach your children the family values that are important to you- in clear ways. If you feel called to integrate this work in a deeper way and become a parenting expert, that’s what I’m here for. 

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