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Jan 2023
1h 25m

Dr. Bruce Perry: How to raise resilient ...

CINDY HOVINGTON, PH.D.
About this episode

In today’s episode (100th!!!) we are joined by co-host Claudia Belliveau and guest Dr. Bruce D Perry. 

Here’s what we talked about in this episode: 
7:00 - How the brain is organized i.e. a layered cake

13:23 - How to deal with after school - the sequence of engagement

16:14 - How humans communicate: repair and rupture

18:03 - How do we stop the cycle

19:30 - How can we change the health system and classroom based on how the brain works

22:40 - What parents need to know about being a parent: how useful are parent handbooks

25:08 - Humans were not meant to live in the world the way it is, and neither were parents

29:08 - How are single parents supposed to be successful? The caregiving challenge tool

35:15 - If the research is so clear, why is the system still broken?

45:37 - Why did Cindy and Claudia get into this line of work?

48:40 - Are child psychiatrists really doing the best job they can do?

52:37 - What can a parent do if they experienced childhood adversity themselves? Are they a lost cause?

1:00:13 - Is my child’s development at risk if home life is heated?

1:02:54 - How can we help our children build resilience?

1:07:38 - What is Dr. Perry’s #1 tip for parents?

1:11:54 - Summary of the episode and the most important takeaway points

My favorite quotes from the episode 

“Curious Neuron is an example of positive change in the right direction” - Dr. Bruce D Perry

“Be an advocate for yourself and your child. If you need a break, find a way to take it, don’t let anyone lead you to believe that it’s selfish.” Dr. Cindy Hovington

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Why So Sad? is an ongoing exploration into the nature of mental health initiated by John Rattray. After losing his sister to suicide and dealing with depression himself, Rattray developed the project starting in 2017.

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