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Oct 2021
36m 9s

TU 159: Preoccupation in Relationships –...

SUE MARRIOTT LCSW, CGP & ANN KELLEY PHD
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When we have a repeated experience of inconsistency - sometimes our person is there for us and others they are not - our only solution is to hang on for dear life. Today's episode describes this relational adaptation, directs therapy around it and helps even if you aren't the one who "see's red." The Modern-Attachment Regulation spectrum is explained as a ... Show More
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