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Sep 2017
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#100 How Do You Stop Loving Someone And ...

BARBARA STEVENS - BREAKUPS, SEPARATIONS, DIVORCE, SELF HELP, HEALING, SURVI
About this episode

This is Breakup Recovery’s 100th episode where I asked listeners to send in the questions that they wanted me to cover in this special episode. I shared my insights, tips and strategies on a number of topics ranging from ‘how do you stop loving some one so much?’, ‘how do I move on’, ‘should I follow them on social media’ and ‘the importance of you’.

There are so many emotions that are going through your body after a breakup. You are possibly stuck and don’t know how to move forward, that is why you are listening to this podcast or reading articles, blogs and books to help you to recover and start to feel normal again. The hurt you are feeling can be so intense, you wonder if you will ever mend your broken heart and be happy again.

I don’t think it is that easy to stop loving some one, especially if you have spent a lot of time with this person. Or if you have been blindsided by the breakup, you never saw it coming. It can be very difficult to one-day stop loving the person you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with.

This question ‘how do I move on’ is universally asked by those that are going through a breakup. So don’t feel that you are the only person questioning yourself about how can you move on after your relationship ends. There can be a number of reasons that you feel that you are not moving on or that you are not moving on the way you would like to. In this episode I share some of the top reasons that might be holding you back from moving forward and enjoying life again.

If you are checking their instagram page, snap chat, their twitter account, their face book status, every hour, I want you to ask yourself this question, ‘why are you doing this?’. Are you looking for a sign that they are missing you, that their life is a mess, they are so unhappy and can’t live with out you? But is this a reality, have you ever seen someone’s post saying they are feeling crappy, they are a mess emotionally and they just aren’t coping? How is that going to make you feel when you see them out and about with their friends?

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