There's a fierce search out there to get yourself, to know who you are and how you impact others. It's why assessments like the Myers-Briggs and the Enneagram are so popular. And how their language can become very personal and special to someone who uses it regularly. So, when I listened in on the first two episodes of "The Me You Can't See" , a new documentary on mental illness, produced by Oprah Winfrey and Prince Harry, I thought about this search for ourselves. Prince Harry pointed out that with so many who’ve carried silent emotional pain for many years, the question isn’t, "What’s wrong with you, the question is - what happened to you?”
So today on SelfWork, sponsored by Athletic Greens, we’re going to be talking about the frightening fact that perhaps you cannot see me – as the title of their extraordinary program reflects – but also about the fact that so many of us struggle to see ourselves.
Because this is true: You cannot see me, but perhaps neither can I.
The listener email today is a very painful one from a young woman who was sexually abused in her past which was perpetrated by a family member, but who also found out that the same family member sexually abused her daughter. Her mother doesn’t know – and she doesn’t know whether to tell her or not. What would you say?
Here are the questions I suggested she ask herself with a therapist:
And the most important dynamic is: Don't revictimize yourself if you choose to confront. Or in any way.
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"The Me You Can't See" - the new documentary produced by Oprah Winfrey and Prince Harry
Dr. Margaret's Course on Facing Depression, exclusively on HImalaya (and the offer includes a 2-week free trial)
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