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Jun 2024
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2215: Four Steps Toward Healing The Pain...

Optimal Living Daily | Greg Audino
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Episode 2215:

Dr. Margaret Rutherford explores the profound impact of parental hurt and offers four steps toward healing: acknowledgment, self-compassion, connecting past experiences with present behavior, and revealing your pain to a trusted person. Her compassionate approach provides actionable guidance for those seeking to overcome the emotional scars of a difficult childhood and build a healthier future.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/how-do-you-heal-from-parents-who-hurt-you/

Quotes to ponder:

"I’ve heard hundreds of stories of those who suffered terribly as children at the hands of the very people who were supposed to care for them."

"You may believe that if you deny or discount the hurt you endured as a child that you’ve got things under control. However, it doesn’t work that way."

"If you don’t feel it, you live it."

Episode references:

I Don’t Want to Talk About It: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0684835398

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