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Jun 2019
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Ep 61. Overachieving, perfectionism and ...

CHLOE BROTHERIDGE
About this episode

Mandy Lehto PhD is a brilliant coach, speaker, writer, and champion of high achievers eager to trade the hustle for something more sane – and satisfying. Her work blends academic research with intuitive, heartfelt guidance.



We discuss:-How we use achievement to buy enoughness



-Overcoming over-achieving 



-Why perfectionism can be used as an ‘escape' from anxiety



-Mandy shares her favourite practical tools for more calm and confidence



-Living life more juicy



Find Mandy Lehto here on her website



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Ep 61. Overachieving perfectionism and living- life juicy with Mandy
Lehto



Chloe:                     Hello
and welcome to the calmer you podcast, this is your host Chloe Brotheridge, I
am a coach and a hypnotherapist, and I'm the author of two books: The Anxiety
Solution and my latest book Brave New Girl, Seven Steps to Confidence. Brave
new girl is all about helping you to end people-pleasing, discover the power of
no and becoming your most confident self. And it's full of stories from people
like you and me, who have grown their confidence.



As well as practical tools that you
can slot into your life, they're going to help you to you be the best you that
you can be. So this week I'm talking to Mandy Lehto, she is a coach, a speaker,
a writer, she's a champion of high achievers eager to trade the hustle of
something more sane and satisfying. Mandy has a beautiful way of blending
academic research with intuitive and heartfelt guidance, and she helps people
to seize life with both hands.



So in this really inspiring
conversation we talk about how we can use achievement to buy enoughness, now
how many of you can relate to this? How we hang our worth on achievements,
whether that's how much money we earn, or getting a promotion, or getting likes
on a social media post we really get into this and how to get away from doing
this because it ultimately isn't very satisfying. We'll talk about how to
overcome over achieving, and this is different to high achieving by the way.



Overachieving is going much too far
than really is possible for a human being to go, and Mandy's had her own
experience of this, shares loads of stories about how she's experienced this
and overcome it and how she helps other people to as well. We'll talk about why
perfectionism can be used as an escape from anxiety, as a way to not have to
feel anxious if we are constantly striving. If we are trying to control what
other people think of us by putting on an image of perfection, we're trying to
protect ourselves from feeling anxiety and yet the process of trying to be
perfect actually creates a lot anxiety in itself.



Mandy also shares her favorite
practical tools, there are loads of things that you kind of want to be making a
note of and returning back to off this episode, and we also talk about how to
live life more juicy. So if you are looking to grow your confidence, I have a

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