On this episode of Overcoming Distractions, Dave welcomes back Rand Selig, author of Thriving: How to Create a Healthier, Happier, and More Prosperous Life. They dive deep into what it truly means to define personal success and the often-elusive concept of "enough."
This conversation is especially relevant for busy professionals, particularly those with ADHD or who identify as neurodivergent, who often push themselves to the brink of burnout.
Rand shares insights on shifting away from external markers of achievement to cultivate a more integrated and fulfilling life.
Episode Highlights:
- Defining Your Own Success: The discussion emphasizes that success is deeply personal and should be defined internally, not by societal expectations, parental influence, or external markers like money, status, or titles.
- Beyond Work-Life Balance: Rand suggests moving past the idea of "work-life balance" as a teeter-totter, instead advocating for the integration of various life components. This helps combat the guilt many feel when dedicating time to one area over another.
- The "Being" vs. "Doing" Paradigm: Success isn't just about accomplishments (doing); it also involves feelings and internal states (being). A healthy, successful life combines both in a proportion that works for you and can evolve with different life stages.
- Discovering "Enough": The journey to understanding what "enough" means for you requires courage and honesty. It involves regularly checking in with yourself about choices and whether they align with your values and desired life.
- Rebuilding After Burnout: For those feeling burnt out or at a turning point, the initial step is self-care and self-compassion, including adequate rest. Seeking support is crucial, and it's important to articulate the specific kind of support you need from others.
- Rand's 14 Elements of Success: Rand shares his personal framework for success. You’ll have to listen to get them!
Find Rand Selig at his website: https://www.randselig.com/
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