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Aug 2022
37m 10s

Questioning and Understanding Our Need t...

Morra Aarons-Mele
About this episode
One of the core tenets of this show is about examining our motivations to achieve (and even overachieve), especially because those needs can contribute to mental health issues. As the school year starts and work pressure ramps up, we revisit our conversation with Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of the New York Times bestselling book How to Raise an Adult: Break ... Show More
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