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Feb 2021
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Stop Arguing, Start Brainstorming

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It's normal to avoid conflict. But if you approach conflict as problem-solving, it might not be so bad. Here's how to turn a fight into a constructive brainstorming session. (This episode originally ran in August 2020.)

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