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Jun 2024
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7 REASONS AVOIDANT ATTACHED AVOID CONFLI...

Annalisa Bahadur
About this episode

You’re probably trying to understand why it is your partner does not engage in conflict or worse, they walk away when a conflict begins. What can even be a little more confusing as when they return without discussing the problem at all; pretending like it never happened in the first place.

This episode tries to bring about some awareness to what happens in the mind of those with an avoidant attachment style during times of conflict.  It’s also aims to share some reasons for their actions.

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