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Oct 2022
53m 58s

Relationships 2.0: How To Keep Conflict ...

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
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When it comes to conflict, most of us just want to shut it down. But psychological research is increasingly taking a different approach to discord, with profound implications for disputes big and small. This week, we kick off our Relationships 2.0 series by asking: what if we stop trying to eliminate conflict and instead ask, how can we do conflict better? 
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