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Jul 2012
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We Could've Had A Great Date If It Weren...

LUCIA
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Why do you only get the relationship you're ready for, regardless of what you want?  Why can you only attract someone who is at the same level of emotional development as you?  Find out in this leading-edge interview with Dr. Bruce Derman, clinical psychologist and author of, "We Could've Had a Great Date if it Weren't For You:  A Guide to Authentic Dating".

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