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Oct 2022
14m 58s

Why Successful Women Struggle in Dating ...

CARA ALWILL
About this episode

No matter how much men say they want an equal partner, a woman who’s smart, successful, and fiercely independent, studies find that those women often make men feel emasculated or inferior (so no, its not in your head, boo!)

There is research by Lora Park, associate professor in the University at Buffalo psychology department, that shows when asked what they wanted in a woman, men wanted “the whole package” – specifically women who were smart and successful. But when given the opportunity to close the distance, and actually meet and/or date these women, the men started to lose interest.

So the good news is, in most cases, it's not you, it's definitely him. But what can we do about it? Today's episode will teach you how to navigate the modern dating landscape, stop blaming yourself for failed relationships, and approach dating in a new and empowered way.

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