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Oct 2022
17m 31s

How to Stop Dating Potential

CARA ALWILL
About this episode

Listen up, babe: All the manifestation techniques in the world cannot change a man who doesn’t want to change himself.

Everyone has potential. It’s what you do with it that matters.

No matter what this person has accomplished in the past, or dreams of accomplishing, we need to date who they are in the PRESENT moment.

In today's episode, we're going to talk about why settling is no longer the vibe. It's time to stop dating potential and start raising your standards when it comes to dating and relationships.

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