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Jan 2021
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168. Not Normal - Conformity, Safety, an...

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
About this episode

Most women feel immense pressure to be “normal.” We evolved to conform for our literal safety, and patriarchy has socialized us to fit in, to defer to the needs of others, to not challenge the dominant social norms. But in order to create an extraordinary life, you have to learn how to leave normal behind and be YOURSELF, fully, weird and wonderful as you are. Learn how in today’s episode.

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What’s really blocking you from speaking up?

You already suspect you hold back from asking for what you want or telling the truth about how you feel. But did you know that there are three main Speak Up Barriers that prevent women from getting what they want in life? This free quiz shows you which one is causing you the most trouble, so you can finally ask for the raise, ask for the help, and have that conversation you’ve been rehearsing in the shower. To take the quiz, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/quiz

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