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Jan 2021
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168. Not Normal - Conformity, Safety, an...

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
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Most women feel immense pressure to be “normal.” We evolved to conform for our literal safety, and patriarchy has socialized us to fit in, to defer to the needs of others, to not challenge the dominant social norms. But in order to create an extraordinary life, you have to learn how to leave normal behind and be YOURSELF, fully, weird and wonderful as you are. Learn how in today’s episode.

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