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Nov 2020
21m 31s

159. You Are Not the Reference Point

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
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How often do you look at someone else’s behavior and think, “If I were them, I’d do that differently”? This may seem like an innocent habit, but it can wreak havoc on your relationships and stagnate your growth. In today’s episode, learn how to let go of your judgments and generate curiosity, compassion, and love for those around you.

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