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Jan 2023
52m 41s

The One Science-Backed Habit You Need in...

Mel Robbins
About this episode

I want this year to be the best year of your life. 


 

So we’re going to talk about the one habit that researchers say has the biggest, overall impact on the quality of your life. 


 

And that habit is learning to be kind and loving to yourself. 


 

We all know we need to learn how to love ourselves, but no one has taught you HOW. 


 

Until now.


 

In this episode, I am teaching you how to start loving yourself with a simple habit that you can add to your morning routine. 


 

I’ve got loads of research to prove why this habit matters and how it will change your life. 


 

And bring your Kleenex.


 

Today I’m not only answering questions from some listeners about self-love, I also invited my husband, Chris, to come on and explain why he thought this habit was so stupid when I first shared it with him. 


 

The conversation took a turn that I was not expecting.


 

It gets very personal and both Chris and I end up crying. He shares details about a period of his life where the shame and sense of failure were so palpable that he couldn’t even look himself in the mirror. I’m so proud of him, and moved by his vulnerability.


 

This is an episode every man, boy, or anyone who identifies as male needs to hear. It’s not just we women who struggle with self-love; the men in your life are struggling, too. That’s why we all need to be practicing this habit every single morning. 


 

You’re going to learn that love is not something you feel; it’s something you must demonstrate. And that’s what I’m going to teach you to do. 


 

You’ll want to listen until the very end, because you’ll meet a woman whose entire life trajectory changed by simply trying this habit once.


 

Want to learn more? All of the research - and there’s a lot of it - is linked in the show notes at melrobbins.com/podcast. And if you want to watch a longer, unabridged version of this episode, visit my YouTube channel.


 

Xo Mel



 

In this episode, you’ll learn:


 

1:50  The habit that has changed the lives of thousands of people

3:50 HOW do I love myself?

4:28 Why it’s so hard to love yourself

5:11 The secret to self-love

6:04 What the science says about why you should do this after brushing your teeth

7:05 50% of people find it impossible to do this

9:30 Learn about neurobics and how it helps you learn a new habit faster.

12:22 The dopamine hit that boosts your mood

14:09 What you tell yourself every time you do this one habit

15:25 One study about how this habit creates winning teams

16:40 How this habit helped kids perform better and work longer

20:48 Why my husband, Chris, thought this habit was ridiculous at first

22:20 The profound insight Chris had when he took the 5-day challenge

25:19 Why you’re going to want to share this with the men in your life

25:55 When in his life Chris started to feel like a failure

34:00 What all men struggle with

36:39 What Chris has to say to all the men out there

40:20 Why I sign off every letter and every episode the way I do

45:00 The message from a listener that every skeptic needs to hear



 

For full show notes, go to melrobbins.com/podcast

To take the High 5 Challenge, go to High5Challenge.com.

Get The High 5 Habit book or eBook.

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