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Oct 2020
29m 47s

156. Victim Blaming & Self-Shaming

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
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A lot of people think that “your thoughts create your feelings” means they should blame themselves if they’re struggling, even if they’re dealing with the effects of trauma. Listen to this episode to learn how to ACCEPT what you’re feeling rather than judge it, and why applying this radical acceptance to your life will set you free.

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