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May 2024
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Why It's So Hard to Face Reality About P...

Anna Runkle
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There’s this strange thing that happens to families when one member falls into destructive addiction. We know that addicts’ thinking gets distorted, and they fall into denial and lying and blaming and sometimes stealing. That’s what you’d expect. But, as I know so well from bitter experience, the “presumably sane” people who LOVE the addict ALSO succumb to distorted thinking and toxic behavior – and they fall into denial, and lying, and blaming, and maybe not stealing – but losing themselves amidst the drama. In this video I respond to a letter from a woman whose reaction to the chaos makes the family dynamic more damaging than it already was.

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