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Oct 2020
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62: Why You Get Attracted to the Wrong P...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode

Do you ever find yourself getting attracted to people who are unavailable (emotionally or otherwise)? Treat you poorly? Or simply aren’t interested in you?

Why does this happen? Why do we conveniently keep getting attracted to the least convenient people?

It can be deeply frustrating, especially when there might be someone who does like us but who we just don’t want.

In this episode, I explain two fundamental reasons why this keeps happening. At the end, I give you a practical “mind trick” you can do on yourself to change this...

Learn the 2 mistakes that keep you from meeting the right person...

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