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Nov 2020
41m 26s

Why We Love the Wrong People

LEMONADA MEDIA
About this episode

The bad boys. The gossipy girls. The ones who won’t commit. The people who need “fixing.” When it comes to relationships, do you tend to gravitate towards a certain kind of person, only to have it blow up in your face time and time again? This week Jaime tries to understand why so many of us seem to always pick the wrong people to love and talks about her own patterns in both romantic and platonic love. Plus, listener questions about morphing into a people pleaser in relationships, trying to find the right person after a divorce, and recognizing an unhealthy pattern in friendships.

 

FYI: Tell Me What to Do contains mature language and themes that may not be suitable for all listeners.

 

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