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Jul 2025
13m 24s

The Real Reason You Haven’t Found Love (...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode

Why do we chase the wrong people and even push away the relationships we say we want? In this week’s episode, I speak with entrepreneur and bestselling author Lewis Howes, and we unpack the surprising ways we can sabotage love without even realizing it.


From being attracted to what feels exciting but unavailable to letting old wounds dictate our instincts, we explore why the “good ones” can feel less appealing, and how we can retrain our brains. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re drawn to the wrong people or why healthy love feels strange, this conversation is going to hit home.


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