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Apr 2020
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ep.8 "You Are Leading A Double Life?" | ...

Kati Morton, LMFT
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Audience Questions:

1 My therapist talks about herself a lot. I kind of want a new therapist but I don’t know how to tell her that. Is there any advice you can give me?

2 What is your take on cutting toxic family members out of your life? I feel like it is really stigmatized in our society (especially when it comes to mothers) and I'm also not sure how to go about actually doing it (in a nice way if possible), thanks!

3 Hi Kati. I'm a college student with BPD that lost my apartment and is now living with my family while doing college online. Do you have any tips on asking for more space during this pandemic?

4 How can I cope with my parents being toxic to each other all the time??

5 What types of experiences are considered traumatic? For an experience to have been traumatic, does a person have to fear for their life or can it be things that are just emotionally/psychologically distressing?

6 How can I stop imagining terrible situations and reliving embarrassing moments, please

7 Is it normal to constantly wonder what your therapist thinks of you? Or to replay a session in your head and think about how you should have said more or said some things differently?

8 Hi Kati, I was wondering how you recommend dealing with the feeling that you are leading a double life? Specifically in the sense of being around family who don’t know about your mental health issues (such as anxiety, eating disorders, trauma) and your sexuality. I know that I am keeping this information private for a whole host of reasons that pertain to my family’s role in my mental health issues but I still feel incredibly guilty for lying. I also am struggling because it is really draining having to keep so much secret when I am home from college.

9 What to do when therapy gets too hard? I have certain topics I just cannot discuss for no obvious reasons, they're just bad childhood experiences I could never get over. I tried many times to talk about it in therapy but I always end up retreating and running away from therapy all together when I push myself. I'm just completely stuck, I've been like this for over a year now. :(

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