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Feb 2020
30m 59s

Feeling Disrespected

Harvard Business Review
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Do you deserve more respect for your role and contributions at work? Dan and Alison answer your questions with the help of Blair Decembrele, a career expert at LinkedIn. They talk through what to do when your direct report goes around you to your manager, your superiors move you into an undesired role without explanation, or your boss suddenly stops appreciating your work.

From Alison and Dan’s reading list:

HBR: Do Your Employees Feel Respected? by Kristie Rogers — “Because people’s jobs are often central to who they are and how they perceive themselves, respectful cues in a professional setting are important signals of social worth. What’s more, employees often join organizations in the hope of developing their identities over time, by growing professionally and becoming better versions of themselves. Respect is an important feedback mechanism and catalyst for this growth.”

LinkedIn Official Blog: Mistakes Happen: Lean on Your Professional Community and Recover From a Career Fumble by Blair Decembrele — “Once you’ve evaluated what went wrong and apologized, figure out how to ensure it doesn’t happen again and go a step further if you can. For instance, if you fumbled an interview question, email the hiring manager additional thoughts on how you should have tackled the topic. Many professionals (29%) say the best way to recover from a fumble is to educate yourself on the issue, so commit to being better prepared next time around.”

HBR: The Price of Incivility by Christine Porath and Christine Pearson — “Employees are less creative when they feel disrespected, and many get fed up and leave. About half deliberately decrease their effort or lower the quality of their work. And incivility damages customer relationships. Our research shows that people are less likely to buy from a company with an employee they perceive as rude, whether the rudeness is directed at them or at other employees. Witnessing just a single unpleasant interaction leads customers to generalize about other employees, the organization, and even the brand.”

HBR: 5 Signs It’s Time for a New Job by Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic — “Even when employees are happy with their pay and promotion prospects, they will not enjoy their work unless they feel appreciated, especially by their managers. Furthermore, people who feel undervalued at work are more likely to burnout and engage in counterproductive work behaviors, such as absenteeism, theft, and sabotage.”

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