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Oct 24
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Why Nice People Stay Stuck | Social Inte...

AJ Harbinger & Johnny Dzubak
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Do you struggle to say no, set boundaries, or ask for what you need because you're afraid of disappointing people? Being too nice might feel like the best way to maintain relationships and avoid conflict, but constantly putting other people's needs first can lead to resentment, burnout, and feeling unappreciated. The problem isn't kindness—it's people pleasi ... Show More
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