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Sep 18
14 m

When Behaviour Speaks

Kim Lee
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Send us Fan Mail A child rarely walks up and says, “I feel unsafe,” “I feel responsible for you,” or “I’m afraid you’ll leave.” More often, they show it and the message can look like defiance, aggression, anxiety, withdrawal, school refusal, sleep problems, or a sudden need to control everything. I’m Kim Lee, a child and adolescent psychotherapist, and this ... Show More
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