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In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs sits down with Michael, a man in his late 70s who completed Alastair's anger management program 18 months ago, to find out one simple thing: did the change last?
Whether you have tried to control your anger before and slipped back, or you are wondering whether it is even worth starting, this conversation offers a real and honest answer.
Rather than offering theory, Alastair lets Michael tell his own story, from the Christmas visit where his daughter confronted him about the kind of father he had been, to the calmer, more connected life he is living today.
And the good news is, Michael's experience shows that lasting change is possible, and probably not as hard as you think.
Key Takeaways:
- The fear that change won't last stops a lot of people from ever trying. Michael's story is a direct answer to that fear. Eighteen months on, the changes are real and they have held.
- Anger is almost always connected to a story you are telling yourself. Michael had come to believe his success entitled him to say whatever he wanted, however he wanted. Until he saw that story clearly, no technique could touch the root of it.
- Controlling your anger is not about becoming a pushover. Michael stopped using anger as a tool to assert his position. He did not stop having opinions or standards.
- Sustainable change happens when the motivation lives inside you, not in someone else's reaction. Michael's daughter has never acknowledged his change. He is genuinely okay with that, because he is doing it for himself, not for her approval.
- It is easier than most people expect, but it requires ongoing practice. Michael still revisits his notes when old patterns start to creep in. Long-term change is not about white-knuckling difficult moments. It is about returning to the tools.
- It is never too late. Michael is in his late 70s, calmer, closer to his wife, and rebuilding his relationship with his daughter. The work he did has made his life genuinely more enjoyable.
Resources & Next Steps:
If today's episode has made you think about your own anger and what lasting change might look like for you:
