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Jun 5
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Why Anxious + Avoidant Relationships Can...

Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
About this episode

Are anxious and avoidant relationships really doomed, or have we oversimplified the conversation?

In this episode, Jessica explores why attachment styles alone don't determine relationship success, the difference between unhealthy and challenging relationships, and how self-awareness, communication, and growth can help anxious and avoidant partners create a healthier dynamic together.

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