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Apr 21
15m 43s

Building Connection From Stability, Not ...

Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
About this episode

Why do we crave connection so deeply… yet feel so unstable in relationships?

In this episode, I dive into the difference between seeking love from emotional need versus a grounded, secure place within yourself. I share my personal journey—from feeling anxious, reactive, and lost in relationships to developing what I now call the Secure Self—and how this shift changed everything.

We’ll explore how your past experiences shape your attachment patterns, why your needs aren’t the problem, and how self-sabotaging behaviors like overthinking, chasing, or shutting down are often driven by insecure parts of you trying to stay safe. Most importantly, I’ll walk you through practical ways to begin building emotional stability so you can show up in relationships without losing yourself.

**Learn about Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.

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