In this episode of Trich Talks, Barbara reads from The Trichster Diaries and opens up about her struggle with hair pulling while working as a classroom teacher. Standing in front of students each day while privately — or maybe not so privately — battling urges took an emotional toll. She reflects on what it felt like to remain in a role she knew was negatively impacting her trichotillomania, yet one she felt an obligation to see through until the end of the school year. Through using spinner rings to keep her hands busy and committing to therapy to shift her mindset, she found ways to cope during that season of life.
Most importantly, Barbara shares how telling her story changed her life — transforming shame into connection and isolation into purpose — and how speaking your truth might just change yours, too.
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