Why do we create conflict when life is actually going well?
In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I unpack the “upper limit problem” — the unconscious pattern of sabotaging joy, abundance, and peace when they start to feel unfamiliar.
I share a real story of catching myself mid-spiral after an expansive workshop and the simple question that stopped me from creating unnecessary conflict.
In this episode, we explore:
- Why arguments aren’t really about the dishes
- How worry turns into criticism
- The 4 core fears that drive self-sabotage
- Why peace can feel unsafe to a dysregulated nervous system
- How to self-soothe instead of outsourcing reassurance
Your invitation…
The next time you feel the urge to criticize, argue, or spiral, ask yourself:
What happened right before this?
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