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"Your enoughness is not determined by what you do."

Have you ever felt that no matter what you do, how much you achieve, how hard you work… it still doesn't feel like enough? In this powerful episode of Soul Talk, I invite you into a deep exploration of one of the greatest illusions we carry as human beings, the lie that says, "I am not enough."

This conversation is a journey back to the truth of who you are. Together, we peel back the layers of childhood conditioning, emotional survival patterns, and unconscious programming that convinced you that your worth was something you had to earn, hustle for, or prove.

You'll discover how this lie hides behind perfectionism, over-giving, success, achievement, and the constant push to be more, and how it subtly shapes your relationships, your choices, and even your destiny.

This episode is an invitation to remember the essence of your being: the part of you that was never broken, never unworthy, never not enough. The part of you that is whole, perfect, and complete exactly as you are.

Listen to this episode and learn how to finally dissolve the lie of not-enoughness so you can reclaim the truth of who you really are.

Timestamps: 

  • (00:00:54) -  What "not enoughness" looks like for high achievers
  • (00:02:43) -  Perfectionism, overgiving & the hidden forms of unworthiness
  • (00:04:03) -  You were not born feeling unworthy
  • (00:05:12) -  How childhood conditions us to earn love
  • (00:06:08) -  Kute's personal story growing up in his father's ministry
  • (00:07:46) -  How identity forms around pleasing, proving, and performing
  • (00:08:41) -  How culture and religion reinforce unworthiness
  • (00:09:55) -  Sneaky ways "I'm not enough" hides in everyday life
  • (00:10:26) -  Why success can't fix the inner void
  • (00:11:20) -  Fact vs. story: the difference we must learn
  • (00:12:48) -  Recognizing the cost of holding onto the lie
  • (00:13:46) -  Step 1: Questioning the story you made up
  • (00:14:55) -  Step 2: Reinterpreting childhood events
  • (00:15:42) -  How to meet the inner voice with compassion
  • (00:16:50) -  Healing through self-love and internal reframing
  • (00:18:19) -  You were never not enough, reclaiming your true self
  • (00:20:00) -  How the "not enough" identity becomes a form of control
  • (00:21:47) -  Why letting go feels scary
  • (00:22:40) -  Releasing the belief and grieving what was missing

Some questions I ask: 

  • Where did the voice saying "I'm not enough" first come from?
  • Whose voice does your inner critic actually sound like?
  • What events from childhood shaped how you interpreted your worth?
  • What else could those events have meant besides "I'm not enough"?
  • What would change in your life if you stopped believing this lie?
  • How does holding onto "I'm not enough" give you a false sense of control?

In this episode, you will learn about: 

  • How love became confused with performance in childhood, and how that pattern still limits you today.
  • The sneaky ways not-enoughness shows up in your relationships, boundaries, finances, and self-expression.
  • How to trace this belief back to its origin and reinterpret the moment that shaped your identity.
  • How childhood conditioning creates a "transactional relationship" with love.
  • How to rewire your self-worth from the inside out.
  • A powerful way to reconnect with the part of you that is untouched by trauma, infinitely worthy, and already whole.

 

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