In this powerful conversation, I sit down with teacher and mind-body guide Sam Miller to unpack why your symptoms aren’t the problem, they’re your body’s solution. We dig into repression, the shadow, nervous system myths, and how to actually allow emotions to complete so you can return to real regulation (without biohacks, force, or fixing).
Sam's YT: https://www.youtube.com/@thegreatallowing
What I Cover in This Episode:
✨ Symptoms as the solution — Why anxiety, fatigue, pain, and ED behaviours are the healing process trying to complete, not enemies to fight
✨ Repressed charge & the shadow — How unfelt fear/grief/anger get stored in the body and surface when you’re finally safe enough to feel
✨ The “allowing” method — A simple, titrated way to meet sensations (not stories) and let the energy finish its arc
✨ Breath that doesn’t backfire — When breathwork helps, when it overwhelms, and how to “be breathed” at the edge of resistance
✨ Primary vs. secondary emotions — Spotting shame/anxiety as blockers so you can access the real thing underneath
✨ Coping mechanisms with compassion — Why food rules, over-exercise, purging, biohacking & perfectionism were brilliant adaptations...until they weren’t
✨ The nervous system reframe — Regulation isn’t something you do to yourself; it’s what happens when you stop resisting what wants to move
✨ Integration matters — Why the sleepy, foggy “after” (tingles, yawns, warmth) is your system updating, not you “relapsing”
✨ Identity, control & safety — Letting the costume fall away, meeting the fear of rejection/abandonment, and building inner safety as the adult self
✨ ED specifics — Extreme hunger, purge urges, and the “runner’s high” explained through survival energy (plus what to do in the moment)
Powerful quotes from the episode:
💬 “Your symptoms are the healing process of a problem you didn’t know you had.”
💬 “The body doesn’t need fixing, it needs allowing.”
💬 “You can’t heal what you still believe is dangerous to feel.”
💬 “Every coping mechanism was a brilliant adaptation… until it wasn’t.”
💬 “Regulation isn’t achieved... it emerges when you stop fighting what wants to move.”
This interview is perfect if you’ve lived in your head, tried to “manage” feelings with food/control, or feel scared you’ll be overwhelmed if you stop coping. You won’t. You’ll learn how to let your body finish what it started...safely.
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