In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Laura Nagiel, a confidence and dating coach for high-achieving women. We dive deep into the difference between confidence and self-esteem, why control-oriented women struggle in dating, and how to step into your feminine energy without losing your strength. This episode is gold for anyone navigating relationships whilst healing their relationship with themselves.
Key Quotes from the Episode:
💬 "Confidence is built through action. Self-love and self-esteem is how we see ourselves, what we deep down believe we are worthy of."
💬 "Your relationships are a mirror of your self-esteem at the time. If your relationships aren't improving as you're doing the work, you're not actually doing the work."
💬 "If you're strong masculine and you want your man to also be strong masculine, it doesn't work. These magnets are pushing each other away."
💬 "Feminine energy is creativity, fertility, ideas. It's making a home out of a house, creating good vibes. You don't have to be shy and quiet to be feminine."
💬 "If your body is the only thing that matters to that guy, and so he leaves or you leave, that saved you so much time. Your dream man would never make you question your worth."
What I Cover in This Episode:
✨ The crucial difference between confidence and self-esteem - Why you can appear confident but still feel unworthy, and how this shows up in dating
✨ The toxic relationship pattern - How low self-esteem creates a track record of narcissists and messy situations
✨ Creating your vision before you date - The four categories to define what you want in a partner (and who you need to become)
✨ Why Type A women struggle with dating - How being control-oriented, perfectionistic, and in your masculine energy repels the man you say you want
✨ Masculine vs feminine energy in relationships - Understanding polarity and why "strong personality seeking stronger man" doesn't work
✨ The misconception about feminine energy - It's not weakness, shyness, or diminishing your achievements - it's creativity, magnetism, and strength
✨ How to ask for your needs without being controlling - The power of praise, gratitude, and inspiring rather than demanding
✨ Navigating sex and intimacy with confidence - Using touch and body language instead of over-intellectualising everything
✨ Body image in dating - Why authentic photos save you time, and how the right person loves your essence, not just your size
✨ The second mode for high achievers - Creating feminine energy as an intentional way of being without losing your professional edge
✨ Laura's guaranteed framework - How she helps clients find their person within six months by addressing root causes
This episode is essential listening for anyone who's recovered (or recovering) from an eating disorder and wants to date confidently, understand their worth, and attract a healthy relationship.
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