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Oct 2024
15m 51s

Is Your Strong-Willed Child Struggling w...

MICHELLE KENNEY, M. ED
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Is your child acting out, biting, or hitting their sibling despite your best efforts? What if the problem isn’t defiance but disconnection? Today I talk about a family I worked with recently who struggled to raise a strong-willed child. They had tried everything: timeouts, punishments, and rewards, but nothing worked to stop the aggression.


As I dive into this family's journey, I explain why punitive measures often backfire and how shifting focus toward connection can create the change we’re all looking for. I share with you how I guided this family to stop using threats and start using special time and empathy. You'll hear the small but powerful steps that led to a transformation, both for the child and the family dynamic.


In This Episode:

  • Punishments worsen aggression, not solve it
  • Connection as the foundation of behavior change
  • The power of empathy and special time
  • How to stop sibling rivalry from escalating
  • Shifting from punitive measures to understanding
  • The importance of removing shame from discipline


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