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Oct 2025
26m 10s

How to Stop Choosing Unavailable People ...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode

Do you attract emotionally unavailable people? Or maybe you have a pattern of meeting good people and pushing them away because “something doesn’t feel right.” If this sounds familiar, you may struggle to trust your own decisions when it comes to love. This often leads to us looking to others to validate our choices and tell us we’re doing the right thing (which can be dangerous for many reasons).


So how can you get out of this cycle? In today’s episode, I share 7 simple steps you can take to make better decisions in love and start building self-trust again.


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