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Do you ever catch yourself saying things in your head that you would never say to a friend? Things like, “Why can’t you just get it together?” or “You should be over this by now.” For a long time, I thought that kind of self-talk was motivating me to grow, but really, it just kept me stuck in shame.

In this episode, we’ll talk about the difference between self-criticism and self-compassion in Christ, why the critic in your head is not the same as God’s voice, and how to begin shifting into a kinder, more Christ-centered way of speaking to yourself.

Rooting for you,
Jessica

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