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Sep 25
31m 32s

217: The Perils of Telling the Truth

Dr. Marie Murphy
About this episode

Have you ever felt proud of yourself for telling the truth… only to later wonder if you should have approached it differently?

 

We often think of truth-telling as an absolute good - something that's always right and beneficial. But what if I told you that, sometimes, the truth we choose to tell isn't necessarily the most important or useful truth in a situation?

 

This week, I share a story about how a dead rat smell in a yoga studio became the catalyst for a profound lesson about truth-telling, and how my well-intentioned truth-telling may have inadvertently created more problems than it solved.

 

Through this cautionary tale, you'll discover why truth isn't always the straightforward virtue we think it is. I'll show you how even those of us who consider ourselves nuanced about honesty can get caught up in truth-telling fervor, and why the most important question isn't whether to tell the truth, but which truth is most useful to tell.

 

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.mariemurphyphd.com/217

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