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Sep 24
12m 40s

167 - How To Get The ‘Right’ Words To Co...

Cat Matson
About this episode

Does it ever feel like your brain and mouth are out-of-sync? You know what you want to say but your mouth just doesn’t play along?

That’s exactly the experience that’s been described by a regular listener, and they’ve asked me for some tips:

“You know, as much as I prepare myself to aid my confidence, it always feels like the right words won’t come out when presenting.  Of course I am nervous, probably more than most but I know that presenting clearly is so important ( perhaps this thinking makes it worse?)

Anyway, I’ll do what I can to calm my nerves and tell myself to relax but what my brain thinks versus what comes out are just not in sync!

I end up constantly correcting what I said which completely destroys the message.

Either I’m losing my mind or I just need some advice or skills to almost switch into gear before presenting”

This is SUCH a common challenge!

Listen in to hear:

  • The biggest mistake we make when this happens, and what to do instead

  • Why it’s actually not about the words

  • How to shift your focus to what your audience needs and wants from you, rather than obsessing over the perfect words

  • Why you don’t want to ‘correct’ yourself, instead, focus on connection (don’t correct, connect)

  • Why you can trust that you know your stuff

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